Just Want The Child To Be Happy!

Every parent's voice both in and out echoes "I Just Want My Child To Be Happy". Parenthood, being a selfless stage of life, urges us to prioritize kid's needs first, ours next. It calls for our primary focus on them, not just monitoring their curricular and extra curricular activities, not just making them happy by buying things for them, but on their real happiness, inner happiness, which is the foundation for their healthy being. Just like we concentrate on their physical health, we need to concentrate on their mental health too. It takes lots of deal to lay down the foundation for them, but if not us, then who else?

These days,  kids spend most of the time on electronic gadgets and we are also indirectly encouraging them as we get our time to do our chores. They become inseparable from the gadgets. Every kid I see here around, has a gadget in hand. Gone are the days when kids are seen with balls and toys to play with other kids. Now they are armed with gadgets and applications. So is my daughter.She likes to spend most of the time playing and watching videos in ipad. Its mostly common at homes, when parents - kids  have tough times during homework, meal times, tantrums. Just changing the approach, made it easier. Instead of trying to separate the duo( ipad and her), I joined with her, making it a trio. I watched with her a kids video that was about emotions, She loved it. We both enjoyed watching, depicting the characters and I was being a companion to her, a play mate. For sometime, it was not like a mom and daughter, but just two little friends.

It was a good beginning to learn about real things that she could connect with herself, know about them and learn what is right and what is not right . Of course, I had to reiterate the story for couple of times until she learned.

Happiness itself is an emotion, a feeling. There are other emotions as well.We need to train our kids to learn about their emotions, to know, to feel, to control. That makes them emotionally healthy(modern terminology is EI) for it reflects in their behavior and contribute to their well being.It feels it is hard to make them understand. Probably we can! by befriending them, associating to their level, by infusing some exercises, games, little talks. Kids are very fast learners. Like its said , they are like sponges, which ABSORB! 
It is QUALITY OF TIME we spend with our kids,  that matters and NOT QUANTITY.

A question worthy to think upon! "Can Happiness be bought with material things?". We need to ask ourselves.It may give us temporary happiness which will wane with time. Inner or real happiness depends not on the environment or things, but it lies inside. We all are quite familiar as we have heard about it. Most of us may have experienced too. When we know this truth, its our responsibility to sow the seed of finding happiness within, in our kids.

This is the video that we watched.

A kid today, is an adult tomorrow. When we want our kids to be happy, we must concentrate on their total development, not just in parts. The primary being, emotional development. 

That is the foundation of strong, healthy and happy kids.

One of the authors, a mom , has beautifully written about the aspects of total development of a child, 

which is worth mentioning at this point here, it really is worthy to revisit and  we surely can understand the importance.

Total development of a child

Lets give our children wings to fly!!!!

Parental love is unconditional. Our children are our joy and pride. Is the way how we really love our kids matters? Do we have to be mindful in loving our kids? Many questions revolve in our minds. We do things to keep our kids happy. But what makes them happy now can later change in their lives when they grow up.What we do today, will it be fruitful in their lives later?

"Prepare your child for the road, not the road for your child", that is the best thing we can do to our kids ever, which will always be with them and help them to be strong individuals facing all challenges that life throws at their paths. Building character is very much mandatory for a human being, that is real education one can possess which keeps penetrating to generations after generations.

As parents its our responsibility to make our kids ABLE TO LIVE their lives to their fullest potential. Instead of just feeding them on their tables, lets teach them how to serve themselves and even cook, while feeding them( making them able without depending on anybody). We need to prepare them to "become" a strong individual  and it is not possible overnight. It comes from the experiences, a kid experiences throughout his/her childhood. We can make those, learning experiences for them.  We need lots of patience and we need to sacrifice. Its our duty to keep an eye on our children, foster and instill values from their experiences, that kids will always bear inside and they serve as light houses for their entire lives.

Here is a quiet video of life lessons that we can get an idea, reflect upon them and plant the seeds inside our kids, which later will yield great produce.

Seeds to sow