Baby betal

Build houses, and live in them. Plant gardens, and eat what they produce.
Get married, and have sons and daughters. Find wives for your sons, and let your daughters get married so that they can have sons and daughters. Grow in number there; don't decrease.
Work for the good of the city where I've taken you as captives, and pray to the LORD for that city. When it prospers, you will also prosper.............. Bible

Building houses and living in them , planting a garden and enjoying the fruits there on, Children are the long-term investments, it may be easy to have children naturally becoming biological parents, its far more difficult to be real parents  of the children. which needs lots of efforts and training. My intention to bring out this blog to share the ideas about up bring the child in a way to make them a good citizen  aswellas happy positive person.

Sigmund Freud believed that each stage of a child's development beginning at birth is directly related to specific needs and demands, each based on a particular body part and all rooted in a sexual base. While simplification of his theories is necessary in order to give an overview, he held beliefs that are quite complex. In order to understand the basics of his developmental stages, it is important to note a few things: Freud's age ranges varied a bit over the course of his work, largely because he acknowledged that development can vary a bit from individual to individual. Additionally, experience of the stages may overlap at times. Finally, Freud believed that the way that parents handle their children during each of the stages has a profound and lasting impact on the overall development of the child's psyche.

Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) developed his ideas about psychoanalytic theory from working with mental patients. Freud believed that personality has three structures: the id, the ego, and the superego. The id is the Freudian structure of personality that consists of instincts, which are an individual's reservoir of psychic energy. In Freud's view, the id is totally unconscious; it has no contact with reality. As children experience the demands and constraints of reality, a new structure of personality emerges- the ego, the Freudian structure of personality that deals with the demands of reality. The ego is called the executive branch of personality because it uses reasoning to make decisions. The id and the ego have no morality. They do not take into account whether something is right or wrong. The superego is the Freudian structure of personality that is the moral branch of personality. The superego takes into account whether something is right or wrong. Think of the superego as what we often refer to as our "conscience." You probably are beginning to sense that both the id and the superego make life rough for the ego. 

Remember that Freud considered personality to be like an iceberg; most of personality exists below our level of awareness, just as the massive part of an iceberg is beneath the surface of the water. Freud believed that most of the important personality processes occur below the level of conscious awareness. In examining people's conscious thoughts about their behaviors, we can see some reflections of the ego and the superego. Whereas the ego and superego are partly conscious and partly unconscious, the primitive id is the unconscious, the totally submerged part of the iceberg.

While Freud theorised that children who smoothly transition through the stages grow to be calm, well centred adults, he felt that an unsuccessful completion meant that a child would become fixated on that particular phase and either over or under-indulge throughout adulthood. Believers of Freud's theories on child development, then, must surely make every effort to help their children through each of the stages, allowing each child to experience their feelings without guilt or excessive pressure to conform to preconceived ideas.

The bottom line, then, must be that parents should make every effort to educate themselves first about what is considered normal and healthy for their children and then balance the advice of child development professionals with their own parental instincts and common sense. For most parents, raising happy, healthy children is a top priority and by staying actively and directly involved in their children's lives, parents will be able to judge the progress that their children are making along the way. In most of the families especially in India the younger couple got caught in between the transition period of ancestral culture and peso american culture as largely the IT professionals are the first generation of the socio-economic change which is occurring right now, and these middle class people are the people who are educated in schools , college and than carrier race, so these people got time to interact with society and directly entering into marriage and then kids. So biggest challenge for them is parenting especially the girls, who often sacrifice their jobs for the sake of kid.

we would be sharing articles relating to the up bring of children and their challenges and what could be the possible solutions, and stories which we listening from our own grandparents in continuation of the tradition we carry forward the interesting stories the kids like.

God created man in his own image. In God's image he created him; male and female he created them., and blessed with power to reproduce that image and asked them to multiply and enjoy the fruits of that garden.

A small story here, once upon a time a  village gardner went to the city to bring three exclusive fruits seeds for his garden, on way in return with seeds he got tired so he sleep under the shade of a tree, while sleeping two of seeds got slipped from his pants and fallen to the ground, after wake up farmer walked away without noticing that he lost two seeds. out this two seeds one got under the stones and burried other one picked by a bird and  flew away into the deep forest make feed to his younger baby on nest, but younger couldnot digest it and the seed falls down as dropping to the soil. 

Few years later both trees one in the deep forest and other in the village garden, after appropriate time both trees are loaded with exclusive fruits.

Now question is which tree has got the value? the one which is brought up in the garden or which is in the deep wild forest? obviously the one which is in the Garden cos it was groomed under able guidance of the gardner who not only provided the best environment to grow but made available to people, whereas the wild forest one bear the same potency of excelency yet it is not available to people so it is not valuable or recognised, Gold becomes gold once it comes out of earth under the earth crust what is the value; likewise the kid who is parented by able parents gives not only the best environment but they give nice platform to show their talents, another kid might be equally talented person but when he groomed in wildest of atmosphere without any platform to perform he goes waste to dump.

so guys let become nice parents by becoming a good father a good mother to you children who are longterm investment for you, the real assest.